MU

While eating breakfast this morning I decided to plug on the television and see the news. It was not exactly the news i was hoping to see, it was chismis news. Showbiz headlines of tabloids are being affirmed or negated by the Unang Hirit hosts. So i kept on eating and not minding what’s on tv. But then when the news about Yasmien Kurdi and JC de Vera were told, all my attention was shifted drastically to the tube. The news says that Yasmien Kurdi finally admitted that something is going on between her and JC. It was MU, mutual understanding. Lhar Santiago added up that they always send text messages asking the whereabouts of each other.

I was stunned for several minutes. People always play the safe side of life. Yesterday, i discussed how people deny their self from expressing what they really feel and hindering the great possibilities that may arise. And now a new different scenario, both parties know that somehow the other person is important and special but decides to slow down and play the mutual understanding game.

MU as others define it as mag-Un (instead of mag-on; it is treated the same way secret lovers make their partners known to be their COUSIN, which is really Cousintahan)or a better definition of Mutual Understanding. I wonder what are the things they had mutual understanding? Is it the report mode of constantly exchanging text messages, including meals and hang outs? Is it they will be constant companions to places they would want to go?

Fun as it may seem, mutual understanding is a very complex situation to be involved in. You consider each other special but without demands. Which is not the case, at the back of their minds, hearts and subconscious they wanted the things they do be reciprocated at the same level or better. Then they would pretend they are fine if their partner feel the sudden cold approach of the other. HHmmmm. Pasweet? OO. If they think both are special why then opt a situation where you are on a loosing end? If two friends (safe choice of words, pati ako naging play safe)consider and treat each other special then why not push through with a relationship? They may clamor that they are taking things slow and would want to know each other better. But hey, all relationships is a story of love-hate and knowing, accepting and respecting each other. If in the end it didn’t work out, it’s life. Sabagay, kapag MU nga naman e you could walk away with less hurt if it didn’t work out. But still further thoughts of MU would entail detriments than benefits. In a formal romantic relationship, you would be given the right to demand, be jealous, and be yourself. In a MU set up, you cannot demand because you are not his partner, you can’t be jealous because he doesn’t owe you an explanation because you are not his lover, and you can’t be yourself because your true feelings are suppressed. Wheew.

In our contemporary times, more and more engage themselves with MUs. The weird thing is that they know the risks and probable failure but still holds on to it.

Is commitment really a scary thing?

Some people might have enough reasons for not wanting to be in a commitment. I understand their plea, but when will they overcome the fear of commitment if they don’t face it first hand? Is playing safe the best way to live life nowadays?

I salute those couples who came out of their safety nets and dared to conquer the world in the name of love. Although some relationships are not meant to work, what if the right one comes along but because of this fear and playing safe you miss it?

To those who are afraid, you are not alone. May we find courage to face reality and move on. Staying in any quasi state would not do us good. So, dates anyone?