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July 12, 2007

Easy Way or Hard Way

Filed under: Desperately seeking answers, Rumbles and Grunts — khentutz @ 8:32 am

In the past few days, most people around me started to spill out some disgust on their present love affairs. On how their partner took them for granted, how they felt they deserved more and sorts. As they continued to relay their stories, i had only one questions for them, “Who said loving is easy?” then there was silence. None of us uttered a single word. I, myself was strucked by the words that came out of me.

I had several mood swings yesterday because i hoped that everything would be well and according to my standards but in reality there is no perfect scenarios and situations, one must be adaptive and be a quick thinker to obtain optimum results. I had mood swings because i wanted things the easy way with less effort or no effort at all. this can’t be at all times.

I felt okay when i realized, men are born to be hedonistic. They do things for pleasure, if doing things the easy way gives them pleasure then why burden themselves with the hardship if a certain result could be achieved in a less strenuous way.

Is falling and keeping in love easy? I guess not. The love wouldn’t be strong if it has not been tested or pushed to its limits. One must endure and think of remedies to keep the commitment of love. Break ups and separation happens when one partner gets very weary and fails to keep up with the hardships. Most successful relationships i have heard of, passed through marvelous stories that proved what a true love is.

There maybe times when loving is easy but there are also times it will be a pain in the ass and heart. But it is a part of it, even in growing up and maturity. It can’t be always a short cut or giveway nor a labyrinth.

I cheered up the conversation with my friends by saying, buti nga kayo meron kayo special person in your life who is willing to do the risks as well just to make it work out. Isipin nyo na lang yung iba, kelan pa sila magmamature or learn about life?


10 Comments »

  1. loving is easy if you’re not going to make it difficult for you and your loved one. does that make sense? ;)

    Comment by theTripper — July 12, 2007 @ 12:55 pm | Reply

  2. I beg to disagree trip:)

    Comment by khentutz — July 13, 2007 @ 1:53 am | Reply

  3. never been in a situation where i felt the love was TRUE. its all but infatuation and illusion (sometimes delusion), though i really want to experience it, yung two way ha…

    Comment by mink — July 13, 2007 @ 12:02 pm | Reply

  4. Probably the reason why they’ve been going to you to let out their difficulties is because youre single…. (Uhm wait, tama diba?) ehehehe

    Comment by southdude — July 14, 2007 @ 2:34 pm | Reply

  5. khen, qualify your disagreement please. ;)

    Comment by theTripper — July 15, 2007 @ 7:13 am | Reply

  6. @mink sometimes we are too idealistic that we miss what we have is true and because we don’t believe it’s love we miss the chance that came our way

    Comment by khentutz — July 16, 2007 @ 2:45 am | Reply

  7. @southdude, ganun ba un? couples would want single persons to bring them back to their senses? i think it’s more of an arbitrator, someone who is outside the dilemma. It’s not he singularity that matters.

    Comment by khentutz — July 16, 2007 @ 2:47 am | Reply

  8. @tripper there are times that hard situations remain as hard endeavors, no shortcuts or easy ways. You can make hard situations to appear easy but it’s still not easy. It’s hedonism. Just like in a hard examination, hard questions will never be easy questions, it becomes easy when u find way to make it easy, it just means the fact of being hard is not changed, the person only managed to find a way to make it less strenuous. Who knows the person might have a hard time finding ways to make it easy. All im saying not all can be pro bono, the best deals demands a higher price.

    Comment by khentutz — July 16, 2007 @ 2:57 am | Reply

  9. hmmm, naalala ko lang yung kasabihan, “it’s better to have loved and lost than not to love at all.” i believe this, but of course, it would still be best if you love and you are both in a win-win situation, right? :)

    Comment by ian — July 16, 2007 @ 6:11 am | Reply

  10. @ian right you are… :)

    Comment by khentutz — July 16, 2007 @ 9:07 am | Reply


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